The concept of “not trying”
“You dont know if you will like it or not unless you try, right?”, a highly overrated statement.
There are a lot of things I haven’t tried yet in my life. I might not even try some of them, even if i get the chance. People generally say, “You gotta try stuff”, “Come on, try it, it will be fun”, “Go, Live a little!”, “YOLO” and much more free advice. All this is from people who romanticize life than it should have been. I hate to break it to you, but, it is not always fun and flowers! Also, it should not be.
Now, let me explain more. I am not saying that you need not grow in life. I am talking about the weird and supposedly “fun” things. You do not need to try things just for the sake of it. If you feel strongly that you do not need to like it or you do not like it, then just don’t try it! There are always people around me who say, “You are missing out a lot”. No, I am not! I am comfortable where I am right now and do not want to try something weird just to “experience” it.
I will be able to handle the regret of not trying something, better than the regret of doing something. This might not be true for all events in my life and most people might think the exact opposite. And thats okay.
I am probably what they call a “safe person”. Thinks twice before talking, well, atleast most of the times. Doesnt do something out of ordinary. Has a schedule. Nothing out of the planned schedule. Nothing goes out of its place. I am not even good at doing anything impromptu. If not for my sanely crazy friends, my life would be a big old black and white movie, which might be not exciting but content enough for me to love it.
When I decide to try something, just to have an experience, my brain goes bonkers of all the worst things that could happen to me physically and emotionally. Like the time when we went to a trip to Shimla, there was a place where we can do paragliding, ofcourse under guidance. If it was upto me I would have brushed off that idea outright. But my we-need-to-try friends said lets go and then they dragged me there. Obviously they asked and I said no and they still managed to conivince me to “just come and look”.
After we paid all the money, they took us to the top of the hill, in a jeep which by the way did not have any top covering. That ride, that horrible ride. Those roads are verticle, bloody! Almost vertical. Just the journey made me realize that its not going to work for me. I am not that adventourous person. I am happy on the ground with my both legs intact like a normal person. I am okay with not “experiencing” flying. I am gonna use flights next time, if I want to roam around in the bloody sky!
My brain is overloaded with all this and probably, it have started to show on my face. My friend asked me I was okay. Thats it, my brain triggered tears as a response. My eyes were wet and she went, “You can just look and come back”, as a way to console me. I am not sure if those tears were completely out of fear or might be because of how I am not capable of trying new things. Even the thought of it.
This is not limited to adventorous stuff, but also more mundane things. Like trying a new grocery store that I already go to. Trying new shampoo. (I have changed mine after using the same thing for 7years). More often than not, people are used to some things in their lives and they do not take the “risk” of trying new things. But somehow they miss this when it comes to bigger experiences.
It is very necessary for people to understand that its not always better to try out new things, but sometimes its okay to just stay put. If that is what you like, then you are not alone.
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